I've never understood the argument "it's for the sake of his kids" because if he really cared about his kids, he wouldn't be screwing around, now would he?
As Lou Reed says, "You're gonna reap, reap, reap what you sow."
There is a strange irony in his trying to force Titter to reveal the identities of others, so that he can keep his own secret.
At this stage- now the secret is out- his pursuit (or his lawyers' pursuit) of Twitter is nothing but vindictiveness.
The reason I broke the superinjunction (http://afterwatt.blogspot.com
) and Twitter @Broxted was that it is two laws, one for the rich & one for the poor.
Thing is, nobody cares if the poor sleep around. It's only the rich and famous who are singled out for this tabloid vilification if they step out of line. Isn't that discriminatory too?
The question is, though, who is entitled to privacy? I mean, if you or I did something equally sneaky, nobody gives a damn, but because he did it, there are nasty tabloid papers making money out of it. Just because somebody is famous, do they have to live like they are saintly hermits or have the ugly consequences spammed to the entire world? That really would be the price of fame.
You might have expected me to take a contrary view just for the hell of it.
Of course the irony is that if he'd just faced the music, it would all have been over relatively quickly because the media have the attention span of a butterfly with ADHD and after the initial buzz, they would have moved on to new things.
As it is, it's dragging out for ages and people like me, who don't read the tabloids and normally would have remained completely oblivious, are now aware of what he's been up to.
Besides, we already have libel laws. If what the papers printed was untrue, he could sue them. If it was true, then he should face the public, apologise to his fans and then behave himself in future.
I do take your point about a double standard in that the hoi polloi can do what they like -- though they will be censured by local gossip and, of course, damage their relationships -- but if a sportsman is making money out of his image as an upright family man, eg through sponsorship deals, then he would be profiting from a lie. If, on the other hand, all he's doing is playing football and nothing else, then I don't see that it matters who he's sleeping with.
I think that's the reality of the situation now- if you want fame you surrender your privacy.
And perhaps it's not so bad- We all know Wayne Rooney's a slag, but it hasn't stopped him scoring goals- or having kids wanting to wear his shirt.
I *really* dislike gossip, having been the subject of quite a bit of untrue stuff over the years (and some true, most of which you can spot because it is far more unexpected and juicy than the tabloid-dull things people make up). I tend to be interested if someone's telling me that a dear friend is in difficulty or is happy. But if it's about someone I barely know doing something I don't care about with someone else I barely know, I cut people off because I find that kind of thing unbearably boring and it makes me think a great deal less of whoever is telling me it.
What's that quote... Mansfield/OH, 1917: "It has been said that there are three grades of mentality. People of the lowest mental grade talk about people, those of the next talk about things, and those of the highest talk about ideas."
... of course it omits "and arseholes censure what other people talk about."
I've been an adulterer and cheating love rat in my time. I guess I got gossiped about. Someone once told me that I was known in my old haunts as The Randy Rev of Royton.
I was randy, I was a Rev- what's to complain about?
Normally I could care less about footballers and their floozies. I don't follow their sport. I only get riled when they start making it illegal for us to talk about them.
And sometimes it is in the public interest that we know about the carryings-on of the rich and famous. For example it would have been a very good thing if Dominique Strauss-Kahn had been gossiped about more. The same is arguably true of Fred Goodwin.
I dont remember the source of this quote, but it is certainly worth repeating: "Gossip is a polite form of murder by character assassination."
When news like this comes out - and it does terribly often and ad nauseam, all I care about is if the person is doing his or her job, not who they are banging!
No, it's not murder. "Sticks and stones may break my bones, etc".