Oh. My. God.
I share your disappointment. And I can't answer your question.:(
Upon due reflection, I think the answer is "ego".
And being shown up like this must be ego-shattering.
Oh dear. I saw a post in the photo_grrls
community, that someone else had a website with photos that were stolen from community members and others. None of mine were on that site. I don't know if I should have felt relieved or insulted, lol
I suppose it is a kind of back-handed compliment to steal someone else's work. I hadn't thought of it that way.
I will miss her, and I wish she had offered a chance for conversation. I think she is devastated.
She is probably very young, and she seemed like a very kind, rather ingenuous person.
I thought she was a marvelous photographer! And she may be--she says she also uses her own photographs.
This makes me very sad. Her father's ill, and she's in trouble, and she's cut off any chance to talk.
That's more or less how I feel. Very sorry for her. She was evidently a bit sad and a bit lost. I can't summon up much of the righteous outrage. Livejournal is after all a compensatory activity; it doesn't surprise me to hear that some people go more in the direction of fantasy than others.
I will miss her too. She was unfailingly kind. She would graciously acknowledge every post and comment.
I don't think it's malicious. I think it's about prestige. There's a fable about a crow who sticks peacock's feathers in his tail. Having slept on it I've reached a stage where I just want to reassure her and say, hey, it's not so bad- and I'd still like to be your friend.
hey, it's not so bad- and I'd still like to be your friend.
I feel the same.
The sad thing is that she felt, apparently, that she had to provide gorgeous photographs to have readers. I found her gentle, kindly writing (with its faint French accent) delightful. And she always wrote back, and read my posts, and was very courteous, always. I'll miss her.
Self-esteem, most likely, played a part. We all want to be liked, to be loved. We all want people to think we are brilliantly creative, fascinating, amazing people. Sometimes, we forget that we really are such amazing beings and we feel that we aren't worthy, and thus we scramble about, trying to find a way to make us seem "better" so that more people will like us and want to talk to us and be our friend.
2004-10-28 02:20 pm (UTC)
Re: Wanting to be Liked
It's a shame. Yeah, I think all of us LJers are to a greater or lesser extent asking for love.
The person in question appeared so sweet-natured, so caring that (on reflection) the miappropriation of a few photographs seems neither here nor there.
2004-10-28 03:33 pm (UTC)
Re: Wanting to be Liked
Unless they are your photographs. She's opened herself up to lawsuits up the wazoo.
I know, typical American thinking.
But sometimes intellectual property is all you have.
I don't think it's just us LJers. I think all of us, when you get right down to it, want to be loved. We want to know there are people out there who care about what happens to us, who hold us in high esteem, who respect us.
I don't know what it says about humanity today that we all seem to be desperate for love. Something is missing, somewhere, methinks...