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Celibacy [Mar. 22nd, 2010|10:08 am]
Tony Grist
"No-one chooses the monastic life," said the monk, "unless they have serious problems with their sexuality." That took me aback. Up until then I'd supposed- if I thought about it at all-  that monks and nuns and celibate priests were heroes of spirituality.

So that's the first and biggest problem with the celibacy rule. You're going to attract a whole lot of people to the priesthood who are running away from themselves-

People who are confused,  immature, cowardly.

And the second problem is that you're attracting them on a false promise. The Church isn't the refuge from the world they think it's going to be. The new priest is the man he always was- with the same old urges- only now he can only satisfy them furtively.   Shut the door on  sex and it'll walk through walls to find you. So there you are- you and your sexuality- and instead of having the whole wide world to prance about in you're locked up together in a teeny-tiny cell.

[User Picture]From: ooxc
2010-03-27 11:20 am (UTC)
Hallo, friend of friend

There's no doubt in my mind that some religious orders had a very poor structure of selection and preparation - especially during the twentieth century. Your monk was perhaps a product of that time?
I strongly beliece that celibacy can be a vocation and a strength, and that our society puts far too much weight on sexual/marital relationships.
On the other hand, I have serious difficulties witn celibacy as a compulsory accompaniment, rather than as separate vocation.
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[User Picture]From: poliphilo
2010-03-27 10:15 pm (UTC)
Whoever my monk was he almost certainly said what he said in the 1970s.

I agree with what you say here about celibacy.
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