I am nearly a year older than you. I don't mess with creams and such, although I do keep my skin moisturised. I play what I call the age card selectively. It's wonderful when you don't want to do something - "Leave me alone, I'm old!" And I definitely notice my body not wanting to be as spry as my mind still is (I envy your mother, my knees sound like fireworks first thing in the morning). But I do think that, at least in my mind, I will always be somewhere around 36, that age chosen because it was the time I decided I was not going to buy into either the eternal youth mystique or the aging because the numbers say you must routine.
There are definitely advantages to getting old.
One of them is that (if you've been paying attention) you're a lot less easy to fool. I guess one word for this is "wisdom".
36 is a good age. I was in my mid thirties when I decided to stop going with the flow and put my life in order.
In my head I'm still in my mid-twenties, and am often surprised to remember that I'm actually in my late thirties. Being 'old' isn't as old as it used to seem when you were young.
From where I'm sitting the late 30s are young. :)
Being 'old' isn't as old as it used to seem when you were young.
That makes a great quote!
I surprise myself sometimes. :-)
I'm constantly marveling at this myself! It's awesome.
56 going on 57 here and as Carolyn says, the age card is fun to play sometimes. I'm still thankful I can get around and have most of my mind intact. My mother lost just about all her motor abilities to a stroke at age 55 and her mind went slowly after that as well. I feel blessed at this point despite creaky bones and odd ailments.
I've got arthritis, my memory isn't as sharp as it was, I don't have much energy and I've taken to enjoying a nap in the afternoons- but basically I'm in reasonable shape.
Well, since I will be 62 next month and was told that I don't look old enough to have retired, I can say that you are NOT OLD.
And you don't look old enough to be retired- really you don't.
I thank you kindly sir! I FEEL old enough though. *L*
how strange that my 36 year old friend and I had a conversation about aging this morning. I said I have very little patience with those of my contemporaries who lie about their ages - and I was surprised to find out that MEN do it as well. It has to do with my brother not living past the age of ALMOST 41 (he died in September and his birthday was in October). I figure that aging beats the alternative. Of course, I haven't had to worry much about medical 'stuff' yet, and by that I mean health CARE, not health.
I'm soon to be 58.
I don't think I know anyone who lies about their age- but, then again, how could I ever be sure? I agree; this whole cult of youth is stupid- and makes people stupid.
I'm always thinking too far ahead -- I look forward to being an old lady. I have to be careful and remember to enjoy being where I am. I spent so much of my early life looking towards adulthood and maturity that I think I poured all my effort into being "older than my years". I've always romanticised age and experience and a notion of freedom that it comes with.
Now of course I'm trying to slow the boat. People seem to think I'm youthful for my "years", but I'm surprised that people would be surprised. So I wouldn't say I'm backpedaling (I really love being in my thirties and you couldn't pay me to be a teenager or in my twenties again) -- but I am trying to be present.
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Me too. I spent my adolescence desperately trying to be grown up.
But as Dylan puts it, "I'm younger than that now."
The only thing I don't like about my current age (54) is this damned degenerating joint disease. I know it would be much easier to bear if I lost quite a bit of weight, but i am currently in some sort of funk where i just want to say to hell with it and eat ice cream and sweets and chips and (basically) junk. I have to get my head out of my butt soon, though.
I've put on weight in the last decade. I used to walk everywhere, but arthritis- and car ownership- have made me lazy.
Like you I try to eat sensibly, but some nights it's just so much easier to put a pizza in the microwave or go out for fast food.
Old age is a state of mind. My mother says she feels the same inside as she did at 21.
There are things I like about being "old". I don't suffer from anxiety and migraines the way I did. I'm a lot more mellow.
"determined to find it interesting..."
Well, it is.
I'm 68, but dont look it. However, first thing in the AM, I feel it -- everything hurts, but only until I get moving. I am very fortunate to have been born into a family of nonegenarians, so have twenty five to thirty more years to enjoy -- and "find interesting".
My family is long-lived too- on both sides. My father made it into his 80s and my mother is 87 and still going strong.
80's, well, that gives me about 50+ years remaining.
That's really a very long time. Hmm. I better get some more hobbies.
If young again, with the mind you have now but with 50+ years to spend, how would you spend them?
If I had my time over again- knowing what I know now- I'd become an archaeologist not a priest. That way I wouldn't have to bail out of my career part way through.
But, on the whole, I'm comfortable with my choices. My life seems to have been all tied up with religion- and I don't regret it. It's an endlessly fascinating subject.
The best hobby is reading. There are so many good writers out there- and there's always a new one to discover. Right now I'm getting stuck into Zola.