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Trusting In Allah [Nov. 9th, 2008|10:22 am]
Tony Grist
The prophet had very little patience with funerals (though he was known to weep at them). He wanted them conducted immediately after the death and with a minimum of fuss. Women were forbidden to go to the burying ground because they couldn't be trusted not to wail. The period of mourning was set at three days (except in the case of widows, who got a little longer). Grave markers- even grave mounds- were dismissed as so much vanity.

Yesteday's funeral was a robust mixture of DIY and tradition. The car that carried the coffin was a silver 4X4 with a cow catcher on the front and a sticker reading "Another fucking cyclist". The undertaker wore shabby clothes, a back to front cap and had a blue-tooth in his ear. The ceremony took this shape: an hour for the women to gather round the coffin and keen- and then a quarter of an hour for the men to recite the traditional prayers (which are largely silent). There was no bloody clergyman and no bloody homily.

Death happens. You deal with it and and then move on as quickly as you can.  Life is an illusion- which means you shouldn't take death too seriously- and too important to waste - which means you shouldn't spend more time on death than is strictly necessary.  The dead are in the hands of God.  Trust him to know what he's doing.
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[User Picture]From: poliphilo
2008-11-10 10:45 am (UTC)
I don't particularly care what happens after I'm gone. Christian funeral services are uniformly horrible, so I'd rather not have one of those, but I don't suppose it matters very much.

I always remember a guy who stood up at his wife's funeral are proclaimed, "To hell with death, let's celebrate!" Now that's class.
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[User Picture]From: ideealisme
2008-11-10 01:42 pm (UTC)
Well personally, I'd rather people were very sorry I was dead. I would expect at least a modicum of keening, weeping and general misery.

And if I'm going to be cremated (I don't care either way since I will be inanimate), please for God's sake don't play some stupid song like "Don't Stop Me Now" - it's one of those things that seems like a great idea at the time but doesn't work. Some poor kid died of a hereditary condition and insisted on it. It was awful, totally out of place when the parents were grieving.
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