|Thanks For Being Nice To Me
||[May. 30th, 2008|09:59 am]
I was out cutting the hedge yesterday afternoon and a child from down the street- a lonely 12 year old who gets lost in the crowd of her siblings- stopped by for a chat. After a while I asked Ailz (sotto voce) to come and chaperone me because- well- a middle-aged man has to be careful around kids these days. I hate it, but there you are. Ailz was showing her our collection of soft toys (we've got hundreds of them) and wound up giving her a couple. Later she returned with gifts of her own- a miniature scent bottle and a doll's hand mirror- plus a thankyou note. |
thank's for the tedy what you give me and thank's for being nice to me and you are a good frend to now.
I've fixed it to the fridge with a magnet.
I don't know how people who are around kids all the time can stand it- all those vulnerable young lives- and knowing all the horrors that surround and await them- and being so powerless to do anything about it- like watching a fleet of paper boats going off down a fast-flowing river.
>>>After all, the place where kids are most likely to be abused and otherwise harmed is their own home.
You know that, and I know that - but try telling it to the sort of person - parent or otherwise - who thinks that any lone adult is suspicious.
Don't you think that the root of all this is really the herd mentality that seems to have set in since about the mid 60s?
That's when, by my memory, families stopped doing things together, the peer group became all-important, and the child or adult who values quiet company (or none) became suspect.
i believe the human animal has always been liable to outbreaks of mass hysteria. All that's changed is that the madness used to spread at the speed of a stage coach and now- thanks to the modern media- it spreads instantaneously and gets everywhere. Where witch hunts were once local, they're now national- if not global.
Similarly, loners have always been liable to persecution. Those words- "witch hunt"- say it all.
Yes - things that used to be confined to a certain newspaper (now, I think, gone) are now all over the radio and TV.
I wasn't thinking so much of "loners" (which I take to mean complete solitaries) but simply people who need to spend some time alone, or children who prefer adult company.
Even witches (in persecution times) weren't solitaries. It's a long time since I knew an anthropologist who wrote a thick tome on this in the 1960s, but the impression I got from him was that it was their sought-after-ness that often sparked off witch-hunts, rather than their solitariness.