My father-in-law is an OK bloke. He's not well but he's good humoured about it- and a whole lot less racist than he used to be. In fact, hardly racist at all.
But my mother-in-law....
They were talking yesterday about how long a pair of family friends had been married and Ailz said, "Well they were married a year or two before I was- and if I'd stayed with Terence we'd have been married 30 years."
And my mother in law said, "Why ever did you leave him?"
She said this in our house.
In my house.
(She has a tenderness for Terence. Terence had a tenderness for her. They're still in touch. My mother in law could always control Terence. She likes controlling people. )
I wasn't there when she said it. Pity really. I'd have enjoyed showing her the door.