Don't they look like they belong on a child. The draw to look younger - anti wrinkle etc., - includes the prepubescent female body - skinny, flat chested and no pubic or other body hair. It seems a bit creepy to me. Thankfully we don't worship the flaccid penis (yet)!
Our society hates adult women, I think. We want to turn 'em into machines or children.
And what exactly is wrong with a flaccid penis?
I used to bikini wax... one must be a bit masochistic.
What does that do to your theory?
2006-04-15 05:11 am (UTC)
Re: Back in the day...
I think America never really fell in love with pubic hair.
Hollywood stars were never hirsute.
But Europe (and New York- which is a piece of Europe that floated off and got wrongly attached) things were different. In the sixties hair was holy.
Sigh. I miss women, as opposed to girls, girls, girls.
I guess we're showing our age.....
I read a bit of that article and about 2/3 down I found, couched in swinging 00's language, something that sounded like "if she puts out on the first date she's not a nice girl and you don't want to have a relationship with her."
The more things change....
Isn't it weird. What a long journey we took to get back to where we started.
At the risk of sounding like a boring old fart, I feel sorry for young people today...
I shave for a couple of reasons:
1. I like the way it feels when it's smooth down there
2. Men seem to prefer it because there's no getting hair in the mouth when they go down on you.
I've no quarrel with reason #1: that's entirely your choise.
As for reason #2: I've never minded getting hair in my mouth.
It's tough being an American girl in her early twenties. You're expected to be a sexual being, but to still maintain a good-girl, innocent image beneath the Playboy shirts and mini-skirts. I guess that's why the pre-teen boy look is so desirable -- no breasts, no hips, no body hair, and weighing ninety pounds.
It's scary to think that just about every young male out there is a pedophile, but that would explain everything nicely. It's sick, but when I tell myself that, I don't feel so guilty for having womanly curves.
Our society seems to be scared of real women- women with curves, women with hair.
Porn was "supposed" to be about sexual liberation, but it's turned out to be just another tool of oppression.
The patriarchy always wins.
I don't like this situation one little bit.
I think it does.
And also of infantilism.
We don't want to face up to the realities of adult sexuality.
I think the human body benefits from that patch of shading. To me it looks unfinished without it.
I think it's like anything else: if you shave or do not shave for your own sake, that's one thing; if it's because of other people's expectations or preferences, that's very much another. And then they can get tangled up in one another, so that you might think you're bikini-waxing because it makes you feel more beautiful, when your criteria of beauty have been imposed from outside. It's not a preference that makes sense to me. (If for no other reason than: ouch.) But I didn't grow up worrying about my sexual attractiveness versus pornstars . . . And back then chicks with their panties off meant huge, cushiony swatches of pubic hair.
Your language reminded me of time_shark
's "The Golden Helmet (Casque d'Or
)," about Henri de Toulouse-Lautrec:He has become Montemartre’s carnal spirit,
celebrating the body in all its pouched, plump, pocked
its ringmaster and its historian,
recording the human whirlwind:
gaudy hats and billowing blouses,
the green haze of absinthe,
sagging rumps and shocks of red pubic hair,
monsieurs emerging from beneath sheets
to kiss their rented lovers,
the stark black of slumming aristocrats,
slipping away from the life he left behind for good . . .
It's very hard to separate oneself from the aesthetic of the age. And the aesthetic of the current age says that Barbie is the perfect woman.
I love Toulouse Lautrec. He was real. And he loved the real.
"sagging rumps and shocks of red pubic hair" Yes!
Yeah...I don't really care to scare the shit out of my lover and have him think that I am pre-pubescent. I do not aspire to be a porn star. I don't even like porn. Smut books are fine, but porn gets me all embarrassed.
Yeah- let's love one another the way we are.
Porn is unreal and getting more and more so. For me human flesh is sexy and silicone ain't.
I remember when waxing was very new, and you had to go to the places in the Valley (Los Angeles area) where the porn stars went to get it done. Then it started coming up all over the place. I think it hurt the most when I'd talk to men my own age and they equated not waxing with uncleanliness and lack of grooming. Then again, the men also waxed-chest and back, gentils unaware that they were copying an aesthetic from gay pornography.
I would just like some range to beauty - that's all I ask. Right now we're hardening into a caste system based around bodies. I don't know if that has always been the case or I am just more aware of it but if I have to hear one more fellow-new-mom lament the changes in her body as if something catastrophic and awful has happened, I will get a little wooden box and carry it around just so I have something to stand on when I yell. :)
I hate this standardization of beauty.
Apart from anything else the ideal on offer is so boring.
The porn star look doesn't do a thing for me. It's so bland.
I don't want to make love to a blow up plastic doll. I want to make love to a person.
I like my hair because it reminds me that I'm a beastie.
That's exactly it.
And isn't letting go and being a beastie part of the fun of sex?
What's interesting is how it's becoming less of a gender issue, and more of a human one. There are increasing numbers of men who shave their legs and bodyhair as well. I started shaving when I trained for triathlons and swimming, and the habit stuck. It just feels cleaner and looks better, IMO. Ever see someone wear a Speedo without without trimming? Looks like they're trying to smuggle a muskrat into the pool. When it comes to pubic hair (male or female), I prefer trimmed to unchecked growth. Count me a victim of media propaganda, I suppose. But completely shaved? Nah.
It's interesting to posit the connections between the hairless aesthetic and the growth of technology. As our technology advances, we seem to prefer looking less and less human.
I think you're right about us wanting to look more and more like machines.
I've never shaved anything except my face, but then I'm not particularly hairy. I don't know how I'd feel if I was.
What's funny is that gay porn helped introduce the concept of men shaving their pubes, so that nowadays even homophobic frat-boys from the mid-west are apparently engaging in the habit.
Porn has grown steadily more dehumanizing, in direct proposrtion to how socially acceptable and valorized it's become. I fiercely oppose any attempt to censor porn, but I think it's a shortcut to sexual neurosis for entire societies.
I wouldn't want to censor it either.
What we need, I guess, is a critique of it- not an academic critique (because who reads that stuff?) but a full frontal comedic assault that would rip into it and mock its absurdities.
We need for the 21st century equivalents of the Marx Brothers to be let loose on it.
Hmmm. I keep having arguments with feminists about this :) I shave or trim my pubic hair, cos I think it looks and feels nicer - I don't tend to shave fully, though - and because I think it's cleaner and less smelly, especially when I have my period. And is less likely to get snagged by my knicker elastic.
I also prefer men to be at least trimmed. It's just a preference, I don't mind either way, but I do think it makes it nicer to go down on them. Wiry pubes stuck between your teeth is icky!
I like porn, too, but I prefer amateur to the shiny, scary people. And otherwise I don't try to look or act like a porn star - my *flatmate* has never seen my cleavage, I don't think!
I guess amateur porn is done by people who care, whereas professional porn is this nasty corporate thing.
Preferences are fine, it's the pressure to conform to certain body types that angers me.
Let's celebrate variety. Smooth people, hairy people, fat people, thin people, young people, old people! Anyone can be sexy, anyone can be loveable (with the exception of Tony Blair.)