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A Bit Of A Rant [Sep. 4th, 2005|10:42 am]
Tony Grist
This person was put in place as a volunteer carer- to offer Ailz companionship and give me space to gad off on my own- but she never shows up without requests for favours. She gives us nothing- and certainly not the service we thought she was offering- and takes all she can.

She got Ailz to fix her computer (it took hours and hours). She got Ailz to type up her dissertation- it turned out to need editing and rewriting as well.

And when she talks, she talks about herself and herself and herself. Justifying herself, praising herself. We're good listeners, but this tape is on a loop...

I feel a deep sense of anger and betrayal.

Then she rings to request (actually more like demand) that we place bids on eBay for her. I tell her Ailz is feeling really rough. She goes on pestering.

In the morning her teenage son rings and pesters some more. Bid on these shoes for me. Up to £20.

And whose pocket is that £20 coming out of? When will it be repaid?

We've had it. That's enough. We tell her supervisor to pull her off our case.

She rings but I'm not answering the phone. If I did I would shout.

[User Picture]From: poliphilo
2005-09-05 09:32 am (UTC)
Ah transference.....

Of course.

No, I was never much good with transference either. It seemed a little inhuman to insist on the divide, the distance. But that, of course, is one of the reasons for wearing a uniform- in my case a clerical collar- to make the point that the "relationship" is on a professional footing.

I think K may be thinking of Ailz as a "sister". Oh dear- how to disabuse her?
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[User Picture]From: jackiejj
2005-09-05 10:40 am (UTC)
How to disabuse her--

It seems to me that simplest and truest is best at this point: "We would like you to stop calling. Thank you for honoring our wishes in this matter. I hope you'll understand, but I am going to hang up now. Goodbye, and good luck to you..."

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[User Picture]From: poliphilo
2005-09-05 11:26 am (UTC)

Yes, that's the way to do it.
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