2005-09-04 03:18 am (UTC)
vampyres. That is what those people are. They search not for somebody to help, but somebody to prey on. Gah. I hope you never hear from her again!!
Oddly enough I feel guilty about it- that it's somehow my fault.
good for you, i have been a care giver, and thats not what its about. i have been reading you and your aliz's journal. wonderful, sweet people, you deserve way better.
Thank you very much.
We like to give. But in this case we gave and we gave and it was all going the one way and suddenly we woke up and thought, hey, we've been had.
You probably should have called her on the behavior a long time ago, or at least the supervisor, but better late than never. Some people just have no clue that life is not always about MEMEMEMEMEME.
We did have an earlier run in with her- and the supervisor was involved and we talked it through and we thought we'd give her a second chance.
In some ways I'm glad we did. If we'd cut all links then I'd always have been unsure whether we'd done the right thing, whereas now I'm sure.
Good for you. Best to not answer the phone any longer. If Ailz still has dissertation stuff in the house/on her computer, or if there are any of her belongings at all at your house, it might make sense to box it all up and deliver it to the agency that sent her on Monday.
No we don't have anything of hers lying around. Unless- good point! there's something on the computer. We'll check and if there's anything there we'll wipe it.
Emotional vampire. Good for you for booting her out!
Yes I've been made to feel as if I owe her something. And I don't.
Thanks for your support.
That's just horrible. *sigh* Sorry you've gone through it, hope it goes away permanently now.
The supervisor will talk to her tomorrow. I hope that that's an end to it.
I am genuinely shocked. Wretched woman! You've done more than fair by her. She shouldn't be placed anywhere else...is there some kind of formal complaint you could make?
It's a volunteer position, so she can't really be sacked- but we've told the supervisor about our experience and we can only hope the supervisor uses discretion when it comes to placing her with other people in future.
I'm sorry, Tony--first, that Ailz isn't well; second, that you both were let down so badly.
I think your solution is exactly the right thing. I hope the next person will be absolutely opposite to this one, who has little compassion.
You have both (no surprise) been endlessly patient. Enough is enough.
I find it hard to think bad thoughts about people. I keep on and on giving them the benefit of the doubt
She is a leech. But I'm sure she'd be shocked if anyone said that to her face. She is someone who has very little self-awareness.