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Adjusting To Change [Oct. 3rd, 2018|10:57 am]
Tony Grist
I slept an extra hour this morning because why not?

It feels odd being in this big house without my mother because-after all- she's the reason we're here. If we hadn't received the call in 2013 we'd still be living in OLdham.

Ailz and I spent most of our married life as just the two of us but for the past five years there's been a third party round whom life- of necessity- revolved. During those five years the only time we had to ourselves was when we booked to go out- and had my sister or paid carers in to mind my mother. It's now eleven o'clock in the morning and normally my mother would be sitting across the table from me, nodding over her tea cup- and today she ain't.

Alice rang to ask after Granny. She was pushing Clover down the street in a push chair and Clover was cheerfully singing, "Not fair, not fair, not fair" I asked Alice to ask her what wasn't fair and she replied, "Nothing." She sounded surprised.

The hospital is in the next village over- so we can pop in and out without it being a big deal. My mother has a room to herself on the geriatric ward- and was sitting out of bed in her paper nightdress, dozing. She has no idea why she's there, but no questions about it either. The insertions in her arms puzzle her. There's a TV on the wall showing loud, colourful American shows. The nurse warned us yesterday evening that all the controls were busted or stolen and so my mother is stuck with Channel 4- not that it makes any difference to her.

Parking at the hospital is inadequate- and expensive. I remember it being just the same at The Royal Oldham. If they're going to make money out of visitors they should make it so you don't have to crawl round the parking area- in a queue- looking for spaces.

No complaints about the hospital itself though. Rather the contrary. Long live the Natonal Health Service and confusion to the privatisers!
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[User Picture]From: pondhopper
2018-10-03 12:05 pm (UTC)
I remember feeling like that when Manolo's mother moved into a care home. Suddenly we had no one else to consider and it was a bit of a shock at first. But you get used to it very quickly.

Our hospitals have very expensive parking also (big city prices). I'm glad your mother is in a good place, though. And yes, long live the NHS and its Spanish equivalent!
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[User Picture]From: poliphilo
2018-10-03 12:45 pm (UTC)
If you have a relative in hospital long-term- and you have to pay to park- it gets to be a real drain on your finances to visit regularly.
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[User Picture]From: faunhaert
2018-10-03 03:52 pm (UTC)
its amazing
what one little infection can do.
but its so close to ones brain.
she would be home already if that was here.

do you have a place in mind
if she can't come home?

would a cab be cheaper?
ask for frequent flyer miles

glad she's doing good
its scary finding some one passed out in the bathroom!
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[User Picture]From: poliphilo
2018-10-03 04:30 pm (UTC)
They're discharging her this evening. My sis and bro-in-law are on their way to the hospital to pick her up.

We've always said we'd do all we could to keep her at home.
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[User Picture]From: faunhaert
2018-10-03 05:31 pm (UTC)
that's cool.

its good there are resources available to help you
keep her comfortable.
being at home is less jarring,
glad she wasn't upset by the hospital stay.

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[User Picture]From: poliphilo
2018-10-03 05:37 pm (UTC)
She's very zen these days.
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