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Foam [Jan. 17th, 2018|10:05 am]
Tony Grist
 My mother threw a cup of tea over herself yesterday and we had to change the whole bed. We washed the duvet this morning and the foam seeped out of every crack of the washing machine and piled up on the floor. 

She was grumpy this morning and didn't want to get out of bed for the carers- who had arrived earlier than usual.

My mother: "Can't I have a cup of tea first?"

Me: "No, these ladies have other jobs to go to and can't wait around watching you drink." 

How odd to be parenting a parent. Or perhaps not so odd- because there's nothing unusual about it. It's how things go. Unexpected would be the better word. Parents are figures of power and authority, who demand a degree of deference- and get it- even when we grow to be bigger than them- but then- if they live long enough- slowly turn into babies .
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[User Picture]From: pondhopper
2018-01-17 12:33 pm (UTC)
I doubt that anything prepares us to parent a parent. It's one of life's sad turnarounds...the human mind's capacity for maintaining adult levels of behaviour is very poor as it ages. And then there are the people who are as sharp as tacks until age 100.

Edited at 2018-01-17 12:34 pm (UTC)
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[User Picture]From: poliphilo
2018-01-17 01:29 pm (UTC)
I'm planning to be one of the sharp as tacks ones.
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[User Picture]From: matrixmann
2018-01-17 01:05 pm (UTC)
Really bad it gets when parents turn to kids and babies when they age, but when they were bossy throughout their lives and it's the last thing they seemingly start to forget, before everything else gets lost.
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[User Picture]From: poliphilo
2018-01-17 01:30 pm (UTC)
My mother used to be hoity-toity, lady of the manor when the mood was on her- and sometimes she still is. That's when I get very parental....
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[User Picture]From: matrixmann
2018-01-17 01:58 pm (UTC)
I think that becomes very untakeable, if otherwise that parent is actually dependent on your actions. That's why one needs to turn into a parent then, at least put up the sign "hey, if I shall do something for you and carry your stuff behind you, then I'll want to do that under that condition that I'll be treated fairly and don't get snapped at for doing stuff wrong that you can't do yourself anymore and that you need to beg me for help with".
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[User Picture]From: poliphilo
2018-01-17 03:33 pm (UTC)
Mostly she does as she's asked- or told. She's not grumpy all the time- and can be very sweet. The carers all seem to think she's a dear.
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[User Picture]From: faunhaert
2018-01-17 04:41 pm (UTC)
hugs
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[User Picture]From: poliphilo
2018-01-17 06:01 pm (UTC)
Thanks.
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