The gun is a tool- like the vacuum cleaner or the feather duster. The difference is you don't get Hoover owners vowing to cling to their machines with their cold, dead hands. It's only the dangerous tools that get fetishized- the sword, the fast sports car, the gun.
I know there are women who wave guns around but it seems to be mainly the male ego that needs to be bolstered by weaponry. Has there ever been a mass shooting perpetrated by a woman? I'm sure there has but I can't think of any.
I don't own a gun. If I did I'd like to think I'd be taking it out of its cabinet today, carrying it into the yard, sticking it on a tree stump and hammering it back into sheet metal.