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Thinking It Through [May. 23rd, 2015|11:51 am]
Tony Grist
Why do we want to move?

My sister was suggesting we must feel trapped here- as if we've put our lives on hold- but, no, that's not it. In fact we've led more active lives since we came down here than we had done for years. Here are the actual reasons- with counter-arguments (where applicable.)

1. We'd rather be there (meaning Hastings) than here. It's a simple preference. We like the idea of living by the sea.  But we're not that far from it. Hastings is less than 25 miles away. We can visit as often as we want.

2. This place is a dump. Well, it is. It needs a lot of money spending on it- but we're not that bothered. For instance the ceiling in the front room has severe water damage- but if you don't look up you don't see it. The roof is a bigger issue. Bits keep dropping off. Someday it's going to have to be wholly replaced and If that day comes while we're in residence it would make sense to sell up and let the buyer do it (Or pull the whole place down) but we're not there yet.

3. This house is inconvenient. Yes, certainly. The living room is on a different level from the front room and my mother's bedroom is on a different level from the upstairs landing. This could become an issue but at the moment we're managing.

4. This place is isolated. I'd like to be able to walk to the shops, or- indeed- walk anywhere. You need a car to get off the property. But- there again- we have one.

5. We own all this land which is not being used- or managed. On the other hand it's very nice to have a private field to stroll round.

And... well, that's all I can think of.  There's a case but it's not compelling.

[User Picture]From: lblanchard
2015-05-23 01:34 pm (UTC)
An idea: If you find a place in Hastings that suits you and accommodates your mother, you could perhaps give it a trial before selling the Old Homeplace. Then if necessary you could move back with your mother and maintain Hastings as a rental property.
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[User Picture]From: poliphilo
2015-05-23 04:48 pm (UTC)
I think it has to be all or nothing. For practical and financial reasons, but also emotional ones.
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From: artkouros
2015-05-23 02:52 pm (UTC)
And you're taking care of your mother.
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[User Picture]From: basefinder
2015-05-23 08:22 pm (UTC)
Having a spot of land to wander on would be appealing, I think. May I ask, how many acres do you have?
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[User Picture]From: poliphilo
2015-05-24 08:21 am (UTC)
Between six and seven.
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[User Picture]From: basefinder
2015-05-24 11:13 am (UTC)
Nice! We know people who have about 5 acres and they love having a "back yard" that large.

I wouldn't want to maintain it, but if it could be left wild it would be a treat.
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[User Picture]From: porsupah
2015-05-27 11:20 am (UTC)
When we rented a place with a similarly silly yard, we'd invite one of the local farmers over a few times over the summer, to run around the place with their tractor and cutter. That made quite short work of it. ^_^

(Though some of it we maintained as a lawn. That was rather more work, especially with a manual mower - but it did look beautiful afterward, with the archetypical striping)
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[User Picture]From: halfmoon_mollie
2015-05-23 11:45 pm (UTC)
Are you happy? Tell your sister to mind her own business.
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[User Picture]From: poliphilo
2015-05-24 08:28 am (UTC)
My sister wasn't speaking out of turn. We were discussing the situation with her and invited her input. We'd like to move but not because we feel trapped but because we'd prefer to be living somewhere else. The question boils down to whether our reasons for going are strong enough to warrant the upheaval.
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[User Picture]From: davesmusictank
2015-05-26 12:32 pm (UTC)
That is a nice plot of land and like you say Hastings is not that far away.
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