You can't get engaged again, but you can always tell her you love her, and the rings, both the old and the new one, are really about expressing that in a physical object, isn't it? In that respect it makes perfect sense to replace the item / symbol once it is worn out.
I took pictures. Ailz has posted them, but you can't capture the dancing light inside a jewel- at least I can't!
Well; pictures are a poor rendition of jewels, but it's what we've got. I think the pics are pretty good, actually.
I've just been and had another look. Hmmm. not bad.
Pity about the cappuchino lid.
2005-02-26 09:52 am (UTC)
Totally OT, but--
I just re-acquired the book The Druid Renaissance, which I used to own but had foolishly parted with. I was skimming through it, and lo! there was your name on the page, quoting an article you had written. I am suitably impressed.
And no, you can't get engaged again, but there's no reason you can't buy each other jewelry and say moony things. *g* Sweet.
2005-02-26 10:22 am (UTC)
Re: Totally OT, but--
Well I remember Philip Carr Gomm asking for permission to quote me, but I didn't know he'd actually gone ahead and done it.
If it's not to much trouble, could you tell me what it is I had to say?
2005-02-26 11:05 am (UTC)
Re: Totally OT, but--
No trouble at all! I happen to have the book with me at work today.
As Tony Grist, former vicar turned Pagan, poet and novelist, wrote in The Guardian, 'The archetype of the Goddess is breaking through everywhere; in feminism obviously, in the Green movement with its Gaia hypothesis, in the occult revival and the New Age religions. Even the patriarchal religions are having to come to terms with Her.... In Christianity the campaign for women priests and the recognition by radical theologians that God is also Our Mother are all signs of her insistent troublesome presence.'
He doesn't give a citation, alas.
Pardon me for being nosey, but in your user profile you write, "I've been an Anglican priest, a Pagan and a Wiccan High Priest and now I'm nothing in particular." By "nothing in particular" do you mean you have become an atheist or agnostic, or do you mean simply that you no longer use a label or participate in a group that requires one?
2005-02-26 02:14 pm (UTC)
Re: Totally OT, but--
Thanks for that. It'll be from one of the articles I wrote for the Face To Faith column.
I stopped practising Wicca two or three years back. Since then I've drifted, waiting to see what turns up. I'm still very interested in religion, and happy to talk theology and mythology, but I don't feel the need to belong to any particular group or take part in any kind of ritual.
It's very romantic that the abstract entity of your love for each other has lasted longer than the concrete symbol of it. Very Archimedes' ship.
And Ailz clearly has excellent taste in both stones and settings. Purple in silver can't be beat, in my view.
Ailz loves purple. I just like colour- any colour. And we both insist on silver.
ah, this is the kind of thing that begins to give me hope again.
purple + silver sounds gorgeous.
We've been together 14 years.
"And it don't seem a day too long..."
I love you to. *kiss, kiss* *hugs*
Awww! How sweet. Maybe you can't get 'engaged' again, but the light of your love is reflected on all you touch...and we get to bask in its glow.
I insist on silver, myself!
It seems so lunar and the moon rules our tides too.
Silver is magical- much more so than gold.
Slowly, silently, now the moon
Walks the night in her silver shoon;
This way, and that, she peers, and sees
Silver fruit upon silver trees;
One by one the casements catch
Her beams beneath the silvery thatch;
Couched in his kennel, like a log,
With paws of silver sleeps the dog;
From their shadowy coat the white breasts peep
Of doves in a silver-feathered sleep;
A harvest mouse goes scampering by,
With silver claws, and silver eye;
And moveless fish in the water gleam,
By silver reeds in a silver stream.
Walter de la Mare
HOw gorgeous. I really never understood why I preferred silver until Ailz said something about it being more 'lunar'. Exactly. I'm a moonchild, or at least consider myself so (love to find out how you find that out) my astrological 'stone' is the moonstone.
thank for posting this lovely poem. It is beautiful.
If you have an affinity for the moon then you're a moonchild- it's as simple as that.
My astrological stone is the garnet- and I wear one in a small ring on my little finger.
I don't see either why you can't get engaged again to the same person. No one is going to arrest you for that, I hope? :)
My wedding ring is plain silver. Most of the people would look at it and then say in that pitying voice: "_That's_ your wedding ring? Oh poor girl!" But I felt all along that it's right for me. And now I can quote you and the beautiful poem.
We chose plain silver for our wedding rings too- and we got the same reaction.
It sounds lovely. And awwwwwww ;)
Amethysts are my favorite stones. I've developed an allergy to metals though (all metals, cheap or expensive) so can't wear rings or earrings or even bracelets for more than an hour without getting itchy red welts, so all of my beautiful rings go unworn. I'd sell them, but I still hold out hope that one day I will be able to wear them...
Congrats on your re-engagement. I don't see why you can't get engaged again to the same person. It's lovely.
That's a terrible shame about the allergy
Ailz is allergic to most metals, but she can get away with silver.