||[Feb. 15th, 2013|11:31 am]
According to former students, Chetham's School of Music- now being rocked by sex abuse scandals- was a place where it was normal for staff and students to be on first name terms. |
I'd always thought calling the teacher "Sir" or "Miss" was about affording the teacher status and protection. I now see it protects the pupil too.
He was her teacher. He had authority and exploited it.
A good teacher doesn't cross the line.
Edited at 2013-02-15 03:24 pm (UTC)
I'm instituting a Dr. Glitz policy next year at work. It's third level, but still. We're not friends. Distance is good.
Power, authority, intimidation, threat (stated, perceived, or implied) of repercussions. "Make" doesn't mean she was held at gunpoint or her arm twisted. The teacher-student relationship is not one of equals, even if they are using first names.
He may have implied that she will get bad grades, a bad report or even expelled if she didn't do what he said. Chethams is now a posh school for gifted young musicians, defying a teacher could have bad implications for a pupils future career.
Ironically, what is now an elite educational establishment was once a Blue Coat charity school. My great uncle went there when it was a school for "poor orphans".
Psychological abuse- I'm both a survivor of same and a former teacher myself and had enough experience of the uses and abuses of power to avoid ever using it (especially as the kids I taught were either abuse victims, seriously disabled and or terminally ill.)
Edited at 2013-02-15 05:01 pm (UTC)
Despite the fact that many parents believe in their deepest hearts that their teenager in "uncontrollable", because of changes in brain chemistry, that particular stage of development is EXTREMELY vulnerable to exploitation if the right leverage is used. Yes... she WAS "made" to play strip poker... even if she thought it was a good idea at the time. There are reasons why age of consent is usually 18.